For me, the essence of sex is the free and voluntary meeting of two equal persons. Bomndage is the very opposite. Concepts, words, and statements like "obedience", "control", and "belonging to one only", even if meant playfully, turn me off once and for all immediately. For me there´s something deep and basic wrong there.

And I don´t mind if you call me boring, or stuck-up.

By the way, this is some corny writing that fulfils almost all the cliches within a few lines. A little less of everything would definitely be more.

I was told by a colleague some time ago that there is a movie about a couple that performs BDSM in an absolutely remote cottage in the wilderness. Just as he has her tied to the bed, he has to go to the toilet. But instead of coming back within a minute, he suffers a heart attack in the bathroom that leaves him unable to move or get help.

This is not very likely to really happen, but by no means impossible.

I wouldn´t trust anybody who wants to tie me up. And I wouldn´t want to be in any kind of situation where I´m tied up.

Also, the idea of having someone tell me that her hair is all mine sounds absolutely ridiculous to me. You just don´t own people or parts of them. I would really ask myself: What is wrong with that person?